This is my eighth Christmas here in the Philippines. Was moving here back in November of 2006 the right thing to do? Well for me, I’d certainly say so. Let’s make a quick comparison between December 2006 and December 2013.
Financial Comparison 2006 thru 2013 — Was My Move Worth It?
|Credit Card Debt||$20,000+||$0.00 (I owe NOTHING. We lived tight and paid it all off)|
|Real Estate||$ 0||~$50,000 (Fully paid for. My wife and I dug deep and paid it all off)|
|Car||$ 0 (I sold my car to cover the moving expense)||2006 Adventure, bought new, fully paid for.|
|Annual Medical Insurance||$3600||$ 0 (I pay as I go)|
|Average Monthly Household expenses||$4000 plus||~ $2000|
|Children Sent through College||0||1 (we sent our niece through four years of college in Manila … It’s fully paid for, and she’s working at a good job in Manila … and helping support her family|
That should give you the highlights of the last 8 years. I am not writing this to brag … I ate a lot of rice, took a lot of cold showers, fixed a lot of roof leaks and did not buy myself any iPhone, iPads or any of the other gee-gaws that many of you probably consider “necessities”. I don’t play golf, I don’t own season tickets to football games, I don’t have a NetFlix subscription, etc.
Instead I am offering up the information for one real reason. An attempt to show those of you who are out there, struggling, drowning in debt, useless student loans, IRA’s or 401K’s which have been decimated by the crooked American “Banksters”, and wondering how you are ever going to even give your children as good a life as you had, let alone even better.
How can you succeed after all these years of falling farther and farther behind?
Moving to the Philippines as been a key factor for me, but much more important has been one simple change I have made in my life.
I stopped misusing the words “Can’t” and “Won’t”. 99% of the changes I made to improve my life in the the past 8 years have to do with one simple change. Don’t say “can’t” when you really mean “Won’t”. This worked for me, it can work for you too. Try it for 2014. It could be the most important New years Resolution you will ever make. And it costs absolutely nothing (except personal honesty and effort).
Read some more below from some people far smarter than I:
By Christine OKelly | September 28, 2007
Back when I used to sit in traffic several hours a day, I had a LOT of time to think. During one of those excruciatingly boring hours, had an a-ha moment that has made a phenomenal impact on my life.
The concept was simple, and only involved removing one word from my vocabulary and replacing it with another. But actually removing this one word from my vocabulary was more difficult than I imagined and led me to discover all kinds of things that I was hiding from my own self.
What I discovered when I replaced this word was that I gained 100% control over my life. The other fun thing that I found is that by being keenly aware of how others use this word, you can instantly read through their own doubts and insecurities about themselves and immediately realize where their priorities lie.
The One Word
I’m telling you, this sounds so simple and perhaps inconsequential until you actually try it yourself.
Look at the difference in these two sentences:
“I can’t get enough leads to make enough sales.”
“I won’t get enough leads to make enough sales.”
The second statement begs the question – Well Why Not? Why won’t you get enough leads to make the sales you want to make? Not motivated enough? Not willing to do what it takes to get those leads? Don’t believe you can really be successful? Plenty of people CAN get enough leads to make enough sales, so it’s not a REAL can’t.
Some other things I used to tell myself were:
- I can’t buy that car
- I can’t take a vacation
- I can’t find a mentor
- I can’t figure out what it takes to be rich
You may find that you can in fact “buy that car” but may “choose not to” buy that car. This is much more empowering than you going around thinking that you CAN’T buy that car.
I’ve studied this phenomenon over the past 4-5 years and I’ve found that the more successful a person is, the less often they say the word can’t. Unsuccessful people use the word can’t constantly.
See also: The Difference Between “I Can’t” and “I Won’t” The whole article is well worth reading, but since many of you don’t care to follow links, there is the “Meat” of it:
I said “I Can’t” to myself too often and it’s been a long slow process to understand why. There’s really two reasons for it. Fear and laziness.
Fear holds us all back from our goals. Fear of failure, fear of being laughed at, fear of what “other” people will think of us. The only way to really fail is to let that fear keep you from trying. The only real failures in the world are those people who have failed to even try.
Sadly, laziness is another big cause of “I Can’t.” Some people don’t try because they are willing to let other people do the work for them. They weigh out the effort required against the benefit for themselves and decide to just sit back and wait for someone else to make the effort. “I Can’t” becomes their go-to excuse for everything they don’t want to do.
Imagine the world if everyone had that attitude. Almost nothing would have ever been accomplished. If everything you do must have an immediate benefit for you then I’d be willing to bet that you have an “I Can’t” mindset. You settle for far less than you could have.
“I Can’t” leads to settling and settling leads to bitterness. You’ve told yourself you “can’t” so many times even you start to believe it. STOP! Stop telling yourself you “can’t and start telling yourself you will. YOU WILL!
Some people say they would do anything to improve their lot in life but when you observe them, even for a short time, it appears that in fact, not only will they not anything, they won’t even do one thing. They don’t even try.
What would people see if they watched you for a week? (my emphasis) Would they see someone who has settled for “I Can’t” or would they see someone who has decided they will?
Trust me. This is all you really need to do to reach almost any goal you might have thought about .. but are currently handicapped in because you feel “You Can’t” (and you tell everyone you meet the whys and reasons you “Can’t” too, provided they will sit still long enough to listen.
Change a word, change your life. merry Christmas and all the best for you and yours in 2014.