My blogging colleague Paul Piotrowski recently wrote am interesting piece about how to decide if making money online was right for his readers. He gets a lot of questions that start out sort of like this:
First of all, regardless how well you craft this question so that it doesn’t sound like that is what you’re asking me, it still doesn’t change the fact that you’re asking me that question.
Realize that I am not you, so there is no way I could ever make that decision for you. In fact, there is nobody out there who will ever make that decision for you. Only you can decide the answer to that question.
What I can do, however, is to give you some help in how you could go about making that decision based on what I’ve gone through.
Traditionally, what most people do when they are trying to make a potentially life-changing decision like this, is that they try to “weigh their options”. So, they either do it mentally or they get a piece of paper out and they start writing out all the benefits and drawbacks of going down a certain path.
For making money online, their list may look something like this:
- Can work from home
- Unlimited income potential
- No boss
- More time with the family
- Flexible schedule
- Full control over what you do day-to-day
- Interesting, ever-changing work
- Get to express creativity, make own decisions
- Lack of stable “salary” compared to a job
- No guarantee of income
- Many “proven” systems, but not sure which one to follow
- Constant changes in the marketplace, must stay current
- May require some access to capital
- Higher risk than working for someone else
At first glance, making a list like this may seem like a productive and reasonable thing to do when trying to make a decision. However, for those of you who have actually done this, you may have found – as I have – that making lists like this is pretty much useless. It doesn’t help you make a decision at all. It just complicates things even more….
Complicates things even more? “Oh no Dave, I know this method works” is likely what at least a few of you are saying. My rejoinder is. “Oh yeah? Then why are you still here asking and reading instead of ‘doing’, whatever it is your pro cons list is supposed to help you decide?
Guess what? The questions Paul is getting about making money online … and the ones I get on the make money online subject, and particularly the “Live in the Philippines” subject are almost never going to be answered with this sort of list building. The very fact you are asking is proof you aren’t ready to make a decision and are dancing about from one expert (or supposed expert) to another hoping someone will decide for you.
“Realize that I am not you, so there is no way I could ever make that decision for you.”…
The “secret” if you can even call it that, is to use your intuition and gut to make the decision. Take a drive out to a nearby park, or the beach, or find a quiet place where you can be left alone without being disrupted. Turn off your phone for an hour and just sit quietly for a while…
If you want to make the move, then for an absolute certainty, you can make the move. It’s not by blind luck that there are thousands of foreigners living here who have already made the move and succeeded. (Judging by the people I’ve met in the Philippines, on and off line, by the Philippine and US government’s own figures and by the number of foreigners I see every day but do not know, I would make an educated guess that less than 10% of the foreigners living in the Philippines ever show up on a website like this. It is just not that uncommon and it certainly is not that hard to do, I am sure some of you have seen me say in the past, if you can handle a move to Kansas, you certainly can handle a move to the Philippines.
But here’s where many get stuck. They don’t know if they actually want to move to Kansas. You see where the difficulty lies here? We could spend the rest of our lives building lists of reasons you could or could not move to Kansas … building up happy scenarios, tearing them down with predictions of gloom, adding up how profitable the move would be in real-world money and then ‘proving’ how it really will be disastrous financially and drive you broke … and at the end, you still won’t be anywhere except where ever it is you are now … which may, in fact, be just where you ought to stay.
You just can’t be wishy-washy and vacillate back and forth ‘waiting’ for some sign as so many of you seem to be doing. Trust your gut and make a decision and then, stick by it. Come to the Philippines or don’t come to the Philippines and your life will go on and you will still love parts of each day and hate others … but at least you won’t be killing yourself by a thousand tiny cuts, agonizing.
I made my decision nearly five years ago and I really don’t have a single regret. But does that mean it was the right decision for me? How the hell would I know?
Maybe my US business would have taken off like gangbusters (I just wrote a piece about a friend of mine who started a business very similar to mine about the same time Mita and I decided to go to the Philippines …his gross over those 5 years is up 7,800 percent and he’s a likely candidate for the Inc. 100 club next year. Congrats, on showing us how GPS tracking is done, Rob. I might have done that good, or even better or he might have bought me out and given me a fat executive corner office … I dunno, and no one ever will know, because staying in that business is not the choice I made.
Another friend whom I worked with, 5 years ago, 12 years younger than me, just fell over dead one day, with his own fast-paced small company, a dozen or more people with their wagon hitched to his star and “poof”, game over. We had the funeral as much to say goodbye to each other as to Tim. “Here today, gone tomorrow” is a very real fact of life that many folks just can’t get their arms around. No matter what decision you make today, the whole world will be different in five years, so what’s going on now is no where near as important as where you want to be five years down the road.
In short? Don’t ask questions about ‘if’, instead, decide what you want and then ask questions about How!