Stick with me, this _IS_ about the US Tourist Visa, eventually.
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A few things I have noticed lately about my blogging activity. I don’t like what I see and I intend to change things up a bit.
- I tend to write too long.
- I tend to not publish frequently enough.
- I tend to try to present the “facts” and not express my own opinions enough.
Some people may laugh at me saying that, because I really am highly opinionated, but never the less I have often shied away from telling people clearly enough what I think.
So with no further ado, here comes a taste of the “New Me”.
Today’s US Tourist Visa (B2Visa) Dilemma.
Here’s a comment I just received from a reader that was attached to one of my frequently read articles. The subject is how easy (or hard) it is for Filipinos, especially young, “eligible” Filipina ladies, to get a tourist visa to visit the US.
Here’s what the reader wrote: I broke it up into 3 separate areas and I’ll respond to each separate area below…
1. Good day, I read your article and all the comments and your suggestions but I still want to know what to do in my case. I am 30 yrs old Filipina (never married) and currently working as a teacher in Thailand for 4 yrs now, same school and I have 1 year relationship to my American bf (we never meet in real but we are constantly talking online everyday).
2. We both decided that I will be the one to visit him to spend Christmas and come back after a week or two.
3. I just recently renew my contract in my school and I got some savings on my own. Do I have a chance to get Tourist visa? or how much savings I need to have in my bank account. Your reply is highly appreciated. Thanks
“What To Do In My Case”?
I really have no answer to offer here. Especially to your first question, “what to do in my case”?
I can’t possibly tell you what to do, it’s your life and your decision to make. I don’t know you, I don’t know him, I can’t possibly predict what your real chances are with the US embassy, and I am surely not as well-educated as you are.
The scary, but also wonderful part of life is, you have to make your own way and do your own ‘thing” … as we frequently say here in the Philippines, “ ‘Sup to you.”
But I can offer up my personal opinion on this. Fair warning, though, you may not like hearing it.
“We Both Decided …”
Well forgive me saying this but I feel you two decided wrongly. In my opinion.
He Should Be Visiting You:
For both romantic and moral reasons
(yeah I’m old fashioned, there are still rules of morality and I have no doubt your mother tried to teach them to you)
and for your own safety and well-being, I think running off to the USA to visit some guy you have never met is a poor decision for a young single woman.
How do you know this guy is not a weirdo or an abuser?
As an American I’m sorry to say it, but the US is full of perverts who look to the Internet to find women they can take advantage off. Not at all saying that this guy “is” someone like that, but how can you possible know?
Also, let’s talk “romance” here. Maybe this sounds too old-fashioned to you, but in most successful love stories the man takes enough initiative to go and ‘court’ the woman.
To anyone on the “outside looking in” this looks a lot like the guy is ordering up room service. It’s not something I would advise a daughter of mine to do.
It’s The Wrong Thing For The Future
Let’s assume that everything I expressed above was wrong and true romance prevails and blossoms. What’s ahead for the two of you then?
Logically one would think marriage, diba?
Well one of the primary ways for the two of you to marry is for him to petition you on a US fiancée visa, bring you too the states and marry you there. This is the absolute best route to a long and successful marriage, in my opinion.
And since you are already an educated, successful overseas worker, you can work in the USA for far more than Thai wages, while you two build your life together.
A prime requirement for the granting of the fiancée visa is that the couple meet with each other _outside_ the US.
So if the time, efforts and money is spent on you making the trip to the US and meeting him there, and as I said, romance blossoms, then he has to leave the US anyway and come to meet you either in the Philippines (or in Thailand at your work as another alternative).
I don’t know who would be paying for this belief US trip, but either way it’s money you two could well use to start a life together should that come to pass?
Why pay the airlines double? A couple could buy a LOT of household items to start their life together for the cost of a trip to the US.
If it should turn out that you two don’t decide to get together permanently, why not let him make the effort?
You yourself already have made the effort to have a passport, live and work abroad, etc. What ‘effort’ is he putting into this relationship? What “skin” does he have in the game? Just saying ….
Your Chances Of Getting the US Tourist Visa
Well you say you read the article. Did you really read it for comprehension or were you just skimming over it looking for the words you wanted to see?
It seems to me almost as if you didn’t really read it or, perhaps, I didn’t write it very clearly. I’ll take a different approach.
Let’s play a game here. Let’s pretend you are employed by the US embassy as a Consular Officer and your job is to issue tourist visas to people who are a “good risk” to fulfill their obligation to leave the US on or before the expiration of their visa.
And it is very, very much your job (in fact your performance rating and future salary) may depend upon you _NOT_ granting tourist visas to people who are at high risk for breaking their word and failing to love up to the terms of the visa. In other words, “going TnT”.
In front of you sits a 30-year-old Filipina woman who wants an US visa. She has carefully filled up her DS-160 visitor visa application form, submitted all required visitor visa documents, paid her B2 tourist visa application fee and now she waits anxiously for you to begin the visitor visa interview.
On the plus side of the list she is educated, she understands the rules. She has a job, a real job, far above average. She has a contract to continue her employment, and she has a very successful work record. She also has legitimate savings (nit the frequent suspicious sort of sudden wealth where someone puts money in her account just for the purposes of trying to ‘trick’ the embassy into granting a visa).
All in all a very personable, presentable candidate.
On the other side of the decision process you must also consider this.
She’s single, educated, employed. Highly “marriageable” and about 10 years behind many of her contemporaries in the normal course of events, being married and starting a family.
Her only reason for visiting the USA is to have a brief romantic “fling’ with a n eligible American man. Hmmm.
She has no history of traveling to the US and returning in the past.
She does have a history of leaving the Philippines for years at a time.
She has highly marketable skills for the US.
She has no children or other overwhelmingly strong family ties to bring her back to the Philippines.
She certainly sounds sincere and honest but you must remember there are hundreds of thousands of Filipinas much like her who made promises to honor their visas and then broke those promises and are overstaying in the USA.
Your job may depend upon your decision here.
Do you grant the visa or do you disapprove the application.
Honestly, I know what I would do.
The question is what would you do? What would your decision be?
And if you decide that you would approve the visa, please tell me why?
In case I Used too many words already, a quick summation.
You are high risk, very high risk, in my opinion.
Consider this, especially important in the area of “affairs of the heart”.
No matter how determined you are that you are only going for a brief visit, remember you have not been in the US before and you have not met this guy “for real” yet.
What if you fall absolutely head over heels for him? How hard is it going to be to say “goodbye” and leave him for an unknown amount of time? You sound like a rational, well-balanced woman. Did you ever read “Romeo and Juliet”? Rational people sometimes do highly irrational things “for love”.
I believe that a great many of the “promise breakers” already overstaying in the US are basically honest people, and they had every intention to keep their word until “true love” or some other situation they had not imagined came up.
You may be 100% ‘for sure” about your intention to honor your promise to return right now but you can’t really predict how emotional the decision may be after you meet.
But in real life, you must decide and you will never know unless you try. Godspeed in your US Tourist Visa search.