Did Your Car Just Break Down?
(Last Updated 12 October, 2017)
- 0.1 This Happens All the Time. Having No Plan Is Planning To Fail
- 0.2 But most people never consider moving.
- 0.3 Did Harry Have It Right?
- 0.4 But Don’t Tell Me You “Can’t” When Reality Is, You “Won’t”
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Recently a friend sent me this in an email. He was telling me about an experience he had when he used to live in Las Vegas. Seemed an interesting story.
“One night at a party, people took turns explaining how they happened to wind up there. My favorite story: ‘This is where my car broke down.’
“This woman was on her way from somewhere in Ohio to somewhere in California. Her car broke down in Las Vegas, and she had no money to pay for repairs. She got a job in a casino. That was 26 years ago; she’s still there. (in the same dead end job).
“You see this often. People let life happen when they are in their 20s or 30s. The car breaks down. A friend has an inside track to a job at a fine restaurant. Grandma dies. The bank is hiring. We have nothing much going on, so we get a job in a casino, at the restaurant, or in the bank. We move into Grandma’s house after she passes…
This Happens All the Time. Having No Plan Is Planning To Fail
This is a story almost too common to tell, it seems. Especially after we reach our 30s or so, these sorts of changes seem to become permanent.
… The purest coincidence got us to where we live. The merest fluke put us in the present job. Now other parts of the world may beckon, other jobs may offer more. No matter. However capriciously we got to where we are, even if simply because our car broke down, we insist on staying there. Further change has become out of the question, no matter how miserable we are.
“This behavior has always mystified me. I’m a fan of capitalism and freedom. Capitalism assumes that if you’re unhappy with what you’re doing, you’ll change.
I Hate My Job
I hear from people every day who “hate” their jobs, “Can’t stand” living where they live any longer, are “sick” of staring another winter in the face again … the list goes on. And for those of them who I know well enough to have heard their life story, it’s all to often like the Vegas car breakdown lady …
“But that’s not how the world works. If people are unhappy with their jobs, they agitate, join a union, go on strike, lobby for political change, maybe blow up the workplace.
But most never even consider changing jobs.
“Similarly, when the landlord raises the rent, people vote for rent control, or sue, or withhold payment, or seek help from city hall.
But most people never consider moving.
What about you? When you tell me how you “can’t” move, are you really where you are because of some actual plan, or are you where your car broke down, years back?
As Harry Brown put it in his book ‘How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World’ (published in 1973), you’re taking a direct approach to addressing your life’s circumstances.
“In his book, Harry makes the point that you should forget trying to change others. That’s the indirect approach. Harry espouses, instead, the direct approach, taking charge of your own life and letting others worry about theirs.
“Suppose you live in Los Angeles. You’re fed up with the noise, the pollution, the congestion, the high taxes, the invasive government, and so on. To deal with these problems, you can try to change others who live in Los Angeles. You can lobby for pollution-control laws, work to invent noise-reduction devices, organize taxpayer revolts, and so on. That’s the indirect approach.
“Or you can move. Moving is an example of taking the direct approach.
“Let others stay put, in jobs and houses and situations that no longer suit them, waiting perhaps for the government to try to make their lives better. The government will inevitably fail; so be it.
“You want to take the direct approach. You want to take steps to improve your own life. You want to act to make sure you live how and where you want to live…”
Did Harry Have It Right?
I think Mr. Brown definitely had the right idea.
I actually get a bit depressed when I hear so many “can’t” messages, sometimes, literally, day after day.
There may indeed be good reasons for not making a move at this time, but, aside from those incarcerated for a crime, “Can’t” really isn’t in the picture.
If you have decided that at this time, doing plan A rather than plan B is what you need to do with your life, that’s great … that’s why God gave you brains and the gift of knowledge.
But Don’t Tell Me You “Can’t” When Reality Is, You “Won’t”
But do me a big favor and make sure you aren’t just sitting, status quo, complaining about all the things you “Can’t” stand” simply because your car just broke down.