Scammers in the Philippines.
(Last updated 3 February 2017)
How’s that for a subject? How many times have we all heard stories, warnings and tales of woe about people being scammed here in the Philippines.
Recently I read a very current and all to common scammer story on my colleague Dave DeWall’s blog, PhilippinesPlus.com
Here’s a pertinent quote, I changed some names for privacy:
How are you doing? Wanted to give you heads up about your wife’s relative “Perky” who she introduced to my brother “Benny.”
They started communicating on F/B, but according to “Benny” she basically is only interested in him to be involved in her sales business.
Than he hadn’t heard from her in a week until yesterday when she claims her business partner in her catering business took all the business’s money and left the country and asked to BORROW $1500.00 from “Benny.”
When he told her he wasn’t going to do that, she than asked “Benny”‘ if his family could loan her money. I could not believe it. I guess she has no shame. So she may try to hit you guy’s up for the money.
The Beat Goes On (and on and on and on)
- 0.1 The Beat Goes On (and on and on and on)
- 0.2 This Is Typical And All Too Frequent
- 0.3 Can Anyone Blame Her?
- 0.4 I Also Get a LOT Of Pleas For Help Due To Non-support Issues
- 0.5 A Special Notice To My Filipina Readers
- 0.6 He Told Me I Could Run This Business From The Philippines, Easy
- 0.7 Philly’s Advice To All Women Reading This
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Sadly this sort of story goes on and one and on. There’s always a thief who stole their money or a sick relative or a grandma who needs a funeral or even that old standby, “Our carabao just died”.
I’m, however, not going to go on and on and on this side of the issue. What I want to talk about today is the scams I see and hear about continuously perpetrated by good old “red-blooded Americans” (and a few other “westernized” countries.).
This Is Typical And All Too Frequent
From a Recent Reader:
I am married to a US citizen Jan of 2016 month’s after that I found out that he was cheating, and even let his mistress go to the States for a Visitors visa three times already. I saw them on Facebook. I have with me pictures of them and his family with the mistress. And i heard from my husband’s co workers that they are planning to get married…My husband said our marriage in Philippines is not legal in USA bcz they have no record’s there. I confronted my husband about him cheating and letting this Hong Kong woman visits him multiple times but he keeps denying…
A Valid Marriage in the Philippines is a Valid Marriage in Any Country
The gentleman? in question here seems to be laboring under the idea that he can have a “girl in every port”. I guess in some ways of thinking it would be very convenient to have a wife in every country you visit. Saves a lot of money on airline tickets for your spouse.
But it’s morally reprehensible (why even get married if you have that little respect for your eternal vows?) and it’s also illegal, at least in any state I know of. See Can I Get Married Even If I Am Already Married? — 2017 for more on this subject.
My reader continues:
My question is…is he single in US even we’re married in Philippines?
It will help if i walk in to the US embassy in Manila and sue my husband and his mistress?
What could i do?
In my head i want to sue them infidelity, adultery and fornication but i have no pictures of them in bed. Only pictures of them together…
Can Anyone Blame Her?
Thanks for contributing. Remembering that I am not an attorney, this not legal advice, just my personal opinion, I really don’t know how I can advise you.
A husband who chooses not to honor his marital vows is a pretty poor example of manhood, IMO, but Lord knows there are so many of them. Sad.
By international treaty marriages in the Philippines are recognized by the USA, just as marriages in the USA are recognized by the government of the Philippines. Your husband’s statement about the marriage not being legal in the US is wrong. Records maintained by government agencies do not “make” a marriage, the vows of the couple before a legal marriage celebrant (presiding official) makes a marriage. But when either party to a marriage chooses not to honor it, there is often not a lot to be done.
Frankly the US Embassy doesn’t offer any solution. What your husband is currently doing is likely not considered a crime (since I don’t know what state he lives in it’s impossible to look up the statutes, every state has its own laws regarding marriage). The US State Department doesn’t regulate what US citizens do on US soil. It’s very difficult to imagine any real legal strategy which will succeed in this case. You might want to consult an attorney though, again, I’m not a lawyer.
I Also Get a LOT Of Pleas For Help Due To Non-support Issues
Guys, here’s my take on this. If you are going to marry some woman, in any country, you owe her at least some basic support, emotionally and financially. You disagree you state, vehemently. Fine, that’s your privilege and your opinion is equally as married as mine, but really, dude, are you so inept that the only way you can have sex with a woman is to lie to her and make legal promises you don’t intend to keep? That’s just lame, weak and sick guy.
Also if you father a child, that child is your owsn flesh and blood and deserves the same rights as any children you have fathered who happen to be “white like you”. Can you really “make a baby’ and then just forget about that precious child for the rest of your life? Sad.
A Special Notice To My Filipina Readers
Most Americans you meet online are going to be good guys. I’m and American and I like to htink of myself as “one of the good guys”, and I surely don’t want to “bust” on my fellow countrymen.
But some years ago I used to work for a lawyer back in Colorado Springs. One of the jobs I did for him was to try to track down “dead beat dads” who had court-ordered child support cases which they were refusing to pay. Amazing to me how many guys there are out there who would rather budget money for beer (or for finding new girlfriends in the Philippines) rather than take care of the women they married and the children they had fathered.
When my lawyer employer/friend learned that I was going to the Philippines and I was getting serious about a woman in the Philippines … maybe planning to live there ..he offered me a ready-made business.
He Told Me I Could Run This Business From The Philippines, Easy
And what was this easy and possibly quite profitable business? Tracking down “dead beat dads” hiding out for their child support payments and other court-ordered obligations here in the Philippines. There are thousands and thousands and thousands of them, sadly.
I would have earned a tidy sum for every guy I located and served papers on. I decided not to get into that sort of a business (worried a lot about getting shot), but the fact remains the problem is big and it’s not getting any better.
Philly’s Advice To All Women Reading This
I wanted to write a lot more words couched in typical Philippine “delicadeza” and the “beating around the bush” that’s so common here when speaking about sensitive issues.
But this article is already too long, and beating around the bush is not my way, so:
- Keep your legs closed until you REALLY know who this guy is. You don’t really “know” somebody from an online relationship, no matter what you think.
- Find out his particulars. His address in the USA. His family situation there. If he’s been married before, make him show you proof that he’s divorced, and not in the Philippines for a week or two of illicit sex while his real wife waits at home, taking care of the children … this happens so, so often ladies.
- If you think you want to marry this guy, then keep on thinking, for a long while before you says “I Do”. Remember he can go to the ceremony, say his vows, and then fly away and leave you deserted and not a damn thing will happen to him But for you, as a Philippine citizen, you are now married for LIFE. Sounds scary? It should!
- Finally, learn how to use birth control until you know you are really well and truly married to someone that you really want to wake up next to for the next 50 years or so. If he leaves you alone and penniless, well, that’s sad but no big deal, you were getting along without him before you met him and you can get along without him again. But if you get pregnant with him and he refuses to do the right thing to support his child, who’s going to take care of that baby, doctors care, school tuition and all the other components of raising a child.
And that, my dear readers is all I’ve got to say right now on the subject of Scammers in the Philippines.